We all love music. The sound of the melody, our bodies vibing to our favorite tune, to the lyrics saying everything that we may be experiencing at the moment. The feeling of tranquility lingers upon us until the song is finished. But, when you hear lyrics like “I don’t want a black b****, I’m already black”(Kodak Black) , or any lyrics that are deemed derogatory, it can give you an eerie feeling. Our children are listening and they are likely to imitate the behavior they see in music videos and what they hear in their favorite songs. Albert Bandura developed the social learning theory and implied that children learn by imitation, especially if they deem the behavior as valuable (Bandura, 1971).

How do can I teach a child self-morals when we live in a world that glorifies a woman giving fellatio on the first date? Or, how can my husband teach a young man self-morals when the world praises a man for disrespecting a female? If I struggled with self-identity issues as teenager as result to listening to music, what about the young ladies coming up behind me? I remember listening to rappers describing their ideal woman. (Big butt, slim waist, long hair, light skinned). Thank god that I had parents who encouraged me to be who I am and instill self-morals as a part of my personal beliefs. Some kids are not that fortunate. They look up to these musicians and their fantasy lifestyle and try to implement it into their own. I am not trying to rage a war against the music industry; however, I am saying that we need to pay attention to what our children are listening to, what they are watching, and who they may be hanging out with. We have a voice in what our children can and can’t listen to and we must explain to them why they should not listen or be exposed to music that contains vulgar lyrics. This is an area of concern and as adults, we should not be blinded to the situation.


Bandura, A.(1971). Social learning theory. New York: General Learning Press.