If you discouraged about the recent midterm election, don’t be. We are a marginalized group that is hated by almost every culture/ethnicity. With that being said, we can not let other people(  ethnicities  ) rescue us. As Lisa Nichols says, “We have to be our own rescue”. Somewhere after the civil rights movement, we became comfortable. Instead of developing a plan for financial success, we relied on a dead end job for money. There were days when we were even afraid to go to work because we thought that we might get fired. We also racked up college debt in hope for a better future because most of us did not come from wealth. Now we are stuck in a debt that will take us 20-30 years to pay off.

We also became lost by the music and social media. Instead of researching and reading , we fell for the lyrics that degrades ourselves and our communities. Some black women have fallen into the  trap of skin bleaching because someone has told them that you are to pretty for a dark skin girl, or because they do not see enough dark skin girl representation. Well, I am here to tell you, black women come in all different shades and sizes. You are beautiful. You must believe this. Stop aiming to be a Cardi B, Nicki Minaj, or Beyonce. Aim to be better than them.Stop degrading one another just to get attention or a couple of likes. Black women, you are unique.

Some of you black men have become mentally lazy. Some of you have  fathered children and decided to be a part time dad and some of you refuse to work to take of the children you have fathered. Don’t you know the repercussions of not  putting more effort into spending time with your children? They hate you, and they resent you.( Trust me. I am that child) Show your children that your care.

 We stopped building strong family foundations and decided to break our committed values. Instead  of implementing the idea to be a wife or husband, we prefer to have baby mamas and baby daddies. Instead of committing to one woman or one man, we would rather have two or three and chase after the next Instagram model. Most of us have lost our values and lowered our standards.

Honestly, I have seen more of us that are awoke and taking action within our communities. But, these issues still remain, and until we fix these issues, politicians will continue to use and neglect us.